EMOTIONS.
Emotions are the most powerful forces inside us. Under the power of emotions, human beings can perform the most heroic (as well as barbaric) acts. To a great degree, civilization itself can be defined as the intelligent channeling of human emotion. Emotions are fuel and the mind is the pilot, which together propel the ship of civilized progress.
Which emotions cause people to act? There are four basic ones; each, or a combination of several, can trigger the most incredible activity. The day that you allow these emotions to fuel your desire is the day you'll turn your life around.
1) DISGUST
One does not usually equate the word "disgust" with positive action. And yet properly channeled, disgust can change a person's life. The person who feels disgusted has reached a point of no return. He or she is ready to throw down the gauntlet at life and say, "I've had it!" That's what I said after many humiliating experiences at age 25, I said. "I don't want to live like this anymore. I've had it with being broke. I've had it with being embarrassed, and I've had it with lying."
Yes, productive feelings of disgust come when a person says, "Enough is enough."
The "guy" has finally had it with mediocrity. He's had it with those awful sick feelings of fear, pain and humiliation. He then decides he is not going to live like this anymore." Look out! This could be the day that turns a life around. Call it what you will, the "I've had it" day, the "never again" day, the "enough's enough" day. Whatever you call it, it's powerful! There is nothing so life-changing as gut-wrenching disgust!
2) DECISION
Most of us need to be pushed to the wall to make decisions. And once we reach this point, we have to deal with the conflicting emotions that come with making them. We have reached a fork in the road. Now this fork can be a two-prong, three-prong, or even a four-prong fork. No wonder that decision-making can create knots in stomachs, keep us awake in the middle of the night, or make us break out in a cold sweat.
Making life-changing decisions can be likened to internal civil war. Conflicting armies of emotions, each with its own arsenal of reasons, battle each other for supremacy of our minds. And our resulting decisions, whether bold or timid, well thought out or impulsive, can either set the course of action or blind it. I don't have much advice to give you about decision-making except this:
Whatever you do, don't camp at the fork in the road. Decide. It's far better to make a wrong decision than to not make one at all. Each of us must confront our emotional turmoil and sort out our feelings.
3) DESIRE
How does one gain desire? I don't think I can answer this directly because there are many ways. But I do know two things about desire:
a. It comes from the inside not the outside.
b. It can be triggered by outside forces.
Almost anything can trigger desire. It's a matter of timing as much as preparation. It might be a song that tugs at the heart. It might be a memorable sermon. It might be a movie, a conversation with a friend, a confrontation with the enemy, or a bitter experience.
Even a book or an article such as this one can trigger the inner mechanism that will make some people say, "I want it now!"
Therefore, while searching for your "hot button" of pure, raw desire, welcome into your life each positive experience. Don't erect a wall to protect you from experiencing life. The same wall that keeps out your disappointment also keeps out the sunlight of enriching experiences. So let life touch you. The next touch could be the one that turns your life around.
4) RESOLVE
Resolve says, "I will." These two words are among the most potent in the English language. I WILL. Benjamin Disraeli, the great British statesman, once said, "Nothing can resist a human will that will stake even its existence on the extent of its purpose." In other words, when someone resolves to "do or die," nothing can stop him.
The mountain climber says, "I will climb the mountain. They've told me it's too high, it's too far, it's too steep, it's too rocky, it's too difficult. But it's my mountain. I will climb it. You'll soon see me waving from the top or you'll never see me, because unless I reach the peak, I'm not coming back." Who can argue with such resolve?
When confronted with such iron-will determination, I can see Time, Fate and Circumstance calling a hasty conference and deciding, "We might as well let him have his dream. He's said he's going to get there or die trying."
The best definition for "resolve" I've ever heard came from a schoolgirl in Foster City, California. As is my custom, I was lecturing about success to a group of bright kids at a junior high school. I asked, "Who can tell me what "resolve" means?" Several hands went up, and I did get some pretty good definitions. But the last was the best. A shy girl from the back of the room got up and said with quiet intensity, "I think resolve means promising yourself you will never give up." That's it! That's the best definition I've ever heard: PROMISE YOURSELF YOU'LL NEVER GIVE UP.
Think about it! How long should a baby try to learn how to walk? How long would you give the average baby before you say, "That's it, you've had your chance"? You say that's crazy? Of course it is. Any mother would say, "My baby is going to keep trying until he learns how to walk!" No wonder everyone walks.
There is a vital lesson in this. Ask yourself, "How long am I going to work to make my dreams come true?" I suggest you answer, "As long as it takes." That's what these four emotions are all about.
by:Bideberi Innocent
NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE TO THE MAN WHO KNOWS WHAT S/HE WANTS AND MAKES UP HIS/HER MIND TO GET IT.
The powerful man is the man who has developed in his/ her mind the entire fifteen weapons to quid him/her on the way to success. Having these laws / weapons in balance, then you are qualified to be an outstanding soldier among the fifteen standing army ready to fight against failure. FAILURE is the steppingstone to yesterday’s ignorance. “Ignorance is the highest way to know what we do not know” “Did you know that you are ignorant like me” Get Crazy with my amazing laws of success.
Before you get crazy you must have power and to have power you must have a DEFINITE PURPOSEof getting crazy. With this DEFINITE PURPOSE you must have SELF – CONFIDENCE with which to back up that purpose. A part from that, you must have INITIATIVE and LEADERSHIP with which to exercise your SELF-CONFIDENCE. With the above potatoes; you must have IMAGINATION in creating your definite purpose and in building the plans with which to transform that purpose into reality and put your plans into Action. Mixing ENTHUSIASM with your action or it will be insipid and without “Kick”. Doing all these, the balancing wheel “SELF-CONTROL is vital. DOING MORE THAN PAID FOR may increase your chance to more fruitful opportunities that night have been endorsed (engulfed) by the superior. Striving for the PLEASING PERSONALITY is also a must for the struggling soldier. When the HABIT OF SAVING has been cultivated then when the man comes in black and white, it will pass like a shadow. As a fighting soldier you should be imbued with ACCURATE THINKING, remember, as you develop this quality, accurate thought is based up on FACTS and not upon hearsay evidence or mere information. As the dynamic thinker, you must have CONCENTRATION by giving your undivided attention to, but one task at a time.
Remember, you must acquire the Habit of CO-OPERATION and practice it in all your plans since a single wheel can’t move a truck. You must also profit from your past FAILURES and that of others. Ups and Downs are part and parcel of life and hence TOLERANCE should be cultivated in once life process. Last, but by no means the least important, you must make the GOLDEN RULE the function of all you do that affects other people .
“Remember, the strong mind contains all the fifteen laws/weapons for success.”
Enjoy your Trip to success.
By Bideberi Innocent.
“A WORD TO THE WISE”
1. “Never in the history of the world, has these been such abundant opportunity as there is now for the person who is willing to serve before trying to collect.”
2. “A man is half whipped the minute he begins to feel sorry for himself of to spin an with which he would explain away his defects”
3. “Seek the counsel at man who will tell you the truth about yourself, even if it hurts you to hear it. Mere Commendation will not bring the improvement you need.”
4. “When you lose your sense of humor, get a job running an elevator, because your life will be a series of ups and downs, anyway”
5. “An aim in life is the only fortune worth finding, and it is not to be found in foreign lands, but in the heart of self”.
6. “If you can not do great things yourself, remember that you may do small things in a great way”.
7. “A winner never quits, and a quitter never wins”.
“The best rose bush, after all is not that which has the fewest thorns, but that which bears the finest roses”
8. “If you can run a losing race without blaming your loss on someone else, you have bright prospects of success further down the road in life”.
9. “A good encyclopaedia contains most of the known facts of the world, but they are useless as sand Dunes until organized and expressed in terms of action”.
10. “No position in life can be secure, and no achievement can be permanent unless built upon truth and Justice”
11. “Do not “TELL” the world what you can but, “SHOW” it”
12. “The best compensation for doing things is the ability to do more”
13. “Anyone can “START” but only the thoroughly – bred will FINISH”
14. “Every line a man writes, and every act in which he indulges and every word he utters serves an inescapable evidence of the nature of that which is deeply imbedded in his own heart, a confession he cannot disavow”
15. “Yes he succeeded –but- he almost failed” No man ever achieved worth-while success who did not at one time or other find himself with at least one foot handing well over the brink of failure”
16. “Neglecting to broaden their view has kept some men doing the same thing all their lives”
17. “Amidst all the masteries by which we are surrounded, nothing is more certain that that we are in the presence of infinite and Eternal Energy from which all things proceed”
18. “Remember that, when you make an appointment with another person you assume the responsibility of punctuality and that you have no right to be rendering of useful service”
19. “You are fortunate if you have learned the difference between temporary defeat and failure; more fortunate still, if you have learned the truth that every seed of success is dormant in every defeat that you experience”.
20. “Is it not strange that we fear most that which never happens? That we destroy our initiative by the fear of defeat, when in reality; defeat is a most useful tonic and should be accepted as such”
21. “Man can be come a great leader of pen unless s/he has the milk of human kindness in his/her heart and leads by suggestion and kindness, rather that by force”
22. “A home is something that can not be bought. You can buy a house but only a woman can make of it a home”
23. “The only man who makes no mistake is the man who never does anything. Do not be afraid of mistakes providing you do not make the same mistake twice”.
24. Love, beauty, joy and worship are forever building, tearing down and rebuilding the foundation of each man’s soul”.
25. “The only lasting favour which the parent may confer upon the child is that of helping the child to help itself”.
26. “Think well before you speak because your words may plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of some other person”
27. “Love and Justice are the real or biters of all disputes. Give them chance and you will no longer want to defeat a friend sojourner by the wayside of life”.
BY, Bideberi Innocent.
TELL ME WHOM YOU KNOW AND SHOW YOU WHOM YOU ARE.
Success in life is largely predicated up on knowing men! The best place to study the man-animal is in your mind, by taking as accurate inventory as possible as YOURSELF. When you know yourself thoroughly (If you ever do) you will also know much about others.
To know others, not as they seem to be, but as they realy are, study them through:
- The posture of the body, and the way they walk
- The tone of their voice, quality, pitch & volume.
- The eyes, whether shifty or direct
- The use of words, their trend, nature and quality
Through these open windows you may literally “walk right into a man’s soul” and take a look at the real man. Going a step further, study the man:
When angry
When in love
When money is involved
When eating (a lone)
When writing
When in trouble
When joyful and triumphant
When downcast and defeated
When facing catastrophe of hazardous nature
When trying to make “Good impression” on other
When informed of another’s misfortune
When informed of another’s Good fortune
When losing in any sort of game of sport
When winning at sport
When alone in a meditative mood.
Before you can know any man, as s/he really is, you must observe him/her in all the foregoing moods and perhaps more, which is practically the equivalent of saying that you have no right to judge others at sight. “Have you ever smiled in front of the mirror?
“How do you look like” (Man is unfinished Project)
By Bideberi Innocent.